Finding a Voice for Homebirth Cesarean

The following is an interview with Courtney Jarecki, co-author of the Homebirth Cesarean project. Courtney also runs a homebirth cesarean support group in Portland, Oregan.

 

Tell us about how Homebirth Cesarean  was born.

The term Homebirth Cesarean (HBC) originated as a way for me to distinguish my birth from the options on doctor’s intake forms. My ego wouldn’t allow me to select the cesarean checkbox and my shame at a failed homebirth kept me away from the homebirth selection. I spent nine months preparing for a homebirth and even though I had a cesarean, the spirit and philosophies of the natural childbirth movement still applied to my experience. So, to make myself feel better, I wrote homebirth over the cesarean option on an intake form and I started calling myself a Homebirth Cesarean mama.

The Homebirth Cesarean book began as a conversation between me and my midwives, eight months after my birth. I reached out to provide feedback about their care and we were able to process the birth together. This topic sparked an interest in Laurie, one of my midwives, and she wanted to write an article on homebirth transfers that end in cesarean. I wanted to write a book about my experience, but knew it needed to be bigger than just me. I asked her to partner with me on a book that shares both the mom’s and midwife’s perspective of homebirth cesareans. From that conversation, this project was born.

A few months later I created the Homebirth Cesarean Facebook page and invited every birth worker and HBC mom I knew. I wasn’t sure what my purpose with the group was, but knew it needed to be out there. An hour later there were 50 new members and now, a year later, there are over 800. It quickly became clear that the intention of the Facebook group is to bring both HBC moms and birth professionals together so practitioners can listen, observe, ask questions and learn how to better support HBC mothers. This group has helped so many moms in their healing process and changed the way midwives, doulas an childbirth educators talk to their homebirth clients about cesarean.

 

What have been the key components to your moving through this experience?

For years prior to becoming pregnant I was studying to become a homebirth midwife. I had completed a year of apprenticeship at a birth center and had my own doula and childbirth education business (http://fullmoonsdaughter.com/). My entire identity and career was based on the idea that low risk women can birth at home.

The cesarean experience left me devastated, isolated and feeling like a failure. My shame and hatred of myself was deepened when, no matter what I tried, I wasn’t able to make breast milk. It felt I couldn’t do anything right and like I was an outcast from the homebirth and natural birth community. I was ashamed of my birth, my body and my lack of ability to feed my daughter.

I started talk therapy at 6 weeks, which saved me. Over the course of two years I have sought many healing modalities for my body, scar and spirit. Of course, this book has been the biggest component of my healing.

Laurie calls HBC the homebirth community’s dark secret. And it’s true! Other homebirth moms don’t want to hear about our births, midwives don’t post our birth stories on their websites and friends and family members tell us that we should just be grateful for a healthy baby.

Our homebirth cesarean work is focused on providing a platform to discuss these births so that mothers and midwives can regain the power and confidence that can be lost in the process.

For mothers, we seek to hold space so they can tell their sacred birth stories. For midwives, we seek to provide new opportunities for them to talk to, for, and on behalf of these mothers.

 

Is there any evidence yet as to rates of homebirth transfers resulting in C-sections?

We are still awaiting data from MANA, an organization that is conducting a large homebirth study in the US. However, many midwives we’ve spoken with estimate that of homebirth transfers that occur in labor, about 50% result in cesarean.

Individually, homebirth midwives have a very low cesarean rate.  For example, a typical midwife in the Portland, Oregon area transports about 10 out of every 100 clients to the hospital – some prior to labor, some in labor, and some just after birth.  Of those 10, if half have cesareans, the midwife will have an overall 5% cesarean rate.  For a midwife seeing 50 clients per year, that means she will have at least 2 or 3 clients who will have a cesarean every year.

Stats aside, if a homebirth cesarean happens to a mom, it doesn’t matter if her midwife had a 0% cesarean rate, for this mom it is 100%.

 

What are some ways women considering home births could prepare for the occurrence of an unexpected hospital transfer and C-section?

Every midwife needs to be talking to their clients about the realistic possibility of transport AND cesarean throughout their care, not just in the initial interview or at 36 weeks.

A lot of homebirth women never even consider that a cesarean could actually be their story, and they don’t know what the experience would be like if it did happen for them. When women have a realistic sense that they could have a homebirth cesarean, they are more willing to plan for what that birth would look like. In turn, if women can clarify their hopes and options for a hospital stay and cesarean birth, they will be more satisfied with the outcome, despite it not being their first choice.

Therefore, many moms report feeling blindsided and unprepared for a cesarean. The moms who had a midwife that suggested a hospital tour or had frank discussions about all interventions, including cesarean, had an easier time integrating their birth experience.

 

How do you see partners involved in the discussion, preparation, education, etc.?

Partners play a big role in our book. We plan on sharing birth stories from the partner perspective as well as highlighting partner’s intuition during the birth and those critical minutes when the partner is away from mama as she’s being prepped for surgery.

In 100% of our interviews with partners they, at some point, felt helpless in the birth or caregiving process. They also never thought of self-care for themselves in those early postpartum weeks. Helping midwives bring a bit more attention to the partner during the birth and postpartum can go a long way for mom’s own healing.

 

How would you advise women to approach concerns about HBC with a homebirth care provider?

Ask lots of questions and really feel how your care provider is responding to your questions. If you tell your midwife you’re worried about being able to push a big baby out and her response is that she’s helped many women do that very thing, does that feel helpful for you? If it does, great. If you tell her your worst fear is cesarean and her reply is that it probably won’t happen to you, that certainly isn’t helpful.

Sometimes it can be hard to get really clear on what your deep fears are around birth. If you feel like a fear is hanging around or you feel like something just isn’t right, talk about it. Conversation around what’s bothering you will bring it out to the light and, hopefully, transform the fear into conversation to plan for all possible outcomes.

Women and their providers need to be open when planning for birth and not be bound to a specific place of birth. Approaching birth as a journey into parenting, which is all about flexibility, resilience and open-mindedness is a great place to being.

 

What have been some of the surprises in this project?

A big ah-ha moment is how close to death, either physical or spiritual, so many HBC moms feel during transport or the cesarean. Even if moms aren’t physically close to dying, they may feel like they are. When women experience HBC, they are faced with the daunting physical recovery from labor, then major surgery, then the emotional fallout from the birth, all the while providing for the intense needs of a newborn! This makes it hard to process the fear and trauma they experienced during the birth and it plays into their postpartum recovery and coping skills as a new mom.

 

Co-authors Courtney & Laurie.

 

Co-authors Courtney Jarecki and Laurie Perron Mednick have been interviewing HBC moms, midwives, birth professionals and care providers since 2012. They are done with the majority of the interviews and we will have interviewed more than 150 people when the project is complete. Their goal is to find a publisher this year and have this book available to the public in the next couple of years.

 

What Are the Options When Your Baby Is Breech?

By Jeanne Faulkner, R.N., a labor nurse and writer for FitPregnancy. You can read more from Jeanne at fitpregnancy.com/labornurse.

In the U.S. today, about 4 percent of babies are breech at full term, which means they’re in position to exit the uterus feet- or butt-first rather than headfirst. Before 1959, virtually all such babies were safely delivered vaginally; today, most are born by Cesarean section. But as more mothers and babies are experiencing sometimes serious complications associated with surgical deliveries (in 1970, the C-section rate was 5.5 percent; today it’s 34 percent), some experts are re-evaluating their position regarding breech births.

Beginning in the 1960s, obstetricians gradually shifted the way they delivered breech babies because they preferred the predictability and the presumed greater safety of a C-section birth. But not every doctor jumped on the C-section wagon immediately; many continued favoring vaginal breech births. That is, until the Hannah Term Breech Trial (TBT) published in 2000 brought them to a screeching halt. The TBT followed 2,083 breech babies in 26 countries, randomly assigned to either vaginal or planned C-section delivery. Early data suggested fewer newborn deaths and injuries occurred in the C-section group. “The impact of this study was stunning,” says Heather Weldon, M.D., an OB-GYN at Southwest Medical Group OB/GYN Associates in Vancouver, Wash. “Within months, breech C-sections went from 50 percent to 80 percent and, by 2006, 90 percent. Then, we found out the study was flawed.”

In fact, critics began poking holes in the TBT immediately after its publication. For example, some poor outcomes attributed to vaginal delivery occurred in birth centers that used substandard techniques or unskilled birth attendants. Some babies had genetic defects or were premature. In short, most weren’t injured because they were delivered vaginally, but because of other factors. Further study indicated that most of the babies recovered fully from their birth injuries regardless of delivery method, and researchers also hadn’t factored in the increased health risks resulting from C-sections.

“The data actually support vaginal breech birth as safe in certain scenarios and not in others,” says Amy M. Romano, C.N.M., M.S.N., associate director of programs at Childbirth Connection, a nonprofit organization dedicated to promoting evidence-based maternity care. “The results should have supported informed decision-making, but instead, hospitals reacted by taking that choice away from women.” Another unfortunate result was that medical schools quit teaching vaginal breech delivery skills to entire generations of new doctors. “Any care provider can get surprised by a breech baby during labor, but many doctors don’t know what to do and that’s dangerous,” says Ina May Gaskin, C.P.M., founder of The Farm Midwifery Center in Tennessee and author of Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth (Random House) and Birth Matters (Seven Stories Press).

Making that baby flip

A baby can be breech off and on throughout pregnancy without causing concern. But after 32 weeks, it might be a good idea to try to reroute him if you want to avoid a C-section. If he’s still breech at 35 weeks, care providers tend to worry, and if 37 weeks comes and goes, it’s time to take action: The closer it gets to your due date, the less likely it is for your baby to flip because there’s just not enough wiggle room.

Three types of breech babies

1} Frank Breech The baby’s bottom faces the cervix and his legs are straight up. This is the most common type and can sometimes be delivered vaginally.

2} Footling Breech The baby’s feet are in the birth canal. This is the second most common type and is generally unsafe to deliver vaginally because of potential cord complications.

3} Complete Breech The baby’s bottom faces the cervix. His legs are bent at the knees, and his feet are near his bottom. The least common type, these babies can sometimes be delivered vaginally.

The following three methods can be tried at 32 weeks or later:

The tilt. Using cushions placed on the floor or an ironing board propped up against the seat of your couch, lie with your hips elevated about 1½ feet above your head. Do this for 10 to 15 minutes three times a day, preferably when your baby is active. There are no reliable statistics, but according to Gaskin, “It works a lot of the time.”

The Webster Technique. “This is a gentle chiropractic adjustment to the pelvis and sacrum that reduces uterine torsion [twisting] and balances the pelvic muscles so that the baby can move into a more optimal position for birth,” says Heather Yost, D.C., a chiropractor at Yost Family Chiropractic in Urbandale, Iowa. “It usually takes four to 10 adjustments, but some babies turn after just one attempt.” The Journal of Manipulative and Physiological Therapeutics reports the technique has a success rate of 82 percent.

Pulsatilla is a homeopathic remedy that stimulates the uterus to settle baby headfirst. It’s best to see a naturopathic physician (N.D.) or a homeopath, though some midwives feel comfortable recommending specific doses and instructions. It’s safe and “sometimes works,” Gaskin says.

The following two techniques should not be tried before 37 weeks because they may stimulate labor:

External cephalic version, performed by either a doctor or midwife, repositions the baby by pushing on the mom’s abdomen and the baby’s head. It’s like a deep abdominal massage. “Sometimes we relax the uterus with medication,” Weldon says. “Then we lift the baby’s body with one hand, get the opposite hand on the baby’s head and encourage a somersault.” An epidural may be given to minimize discomfort during the procedure. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the average success rate is 58 percent.

Moxibustion, a technique performed by acupuncturists, uses heat from a burning herb, mugwort, to stimulate an acupuncture point on the outside of the smallest toe; this increases fetal activity. Studies show that moxibustion is 30 percent to 36 percent more likely than other methods to make a baby turn head-down, with some small studies indicating that its success rate may be higher than 80 percent.

If you’re close to your due date, your baby is still breech and you want to avoid a C-section, surgery may be your only option unless you can find a doctor or midwife who is qualified and willing to deliver him vaginally or you don’t meet the criteria for a safe vaginal birth. For details about one hospital’s pioneering program, see below.

If you want a vaginal delivery

Oregon Health & Science University (OHSU) in Portland is among a few hospitals nationwide to support vaginal breech delivery. “Without hospital-based options, some patients attempt high-risk deliveries at home,” says Leonardo Pereira, M.D., OHSU’s chief of maternal-fetal medicine. “OHSU has established safety criteria for patients, and we are training clinicians to deliver breeches vaginally in order to make the service available at more hospitals in the future.”

Among other criteria needed to qualify for an attempted vaginal breech delivery, the woman must have her pelvis measured via an MRI, and the baby must be full term and in frank or complete breech presentation. Very small or very large babies may not qualify. To find an appropriately trained doctor or midwife, call your closest academic health center and ask whether vaginal breech delivery is offered or whether they can refer you to providers who do offer it. You can also look for providers at midwife.org or birthpartners.org.

Early Induction: What You Should Know

In line with last week’s post about recommendations against elective induction before 39 weeks, let’s talk about what an early induction means. Below are some basic points with links to more in-depth information from evidence-based resources.

How early is an early induction?

An “early induction” is any induction that is performed before 39 weeks of pregnancy. Experts from several recognized organizations, including the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), Childbirth Connection and March of Dimes, state that a baby needs at least 39 completed weeks in order to fully develop their brain and other vital organs.

What are the risks of early induction?

Induction in and of itself carries risks to mom and baby. Because induction is an artificial process for starting labor, your body may not be ready to follow its cues. As a result, inductions can cause a cascade of additional medical processes (interventions) to keep labor going, which can ultimately lead to an increased risk for cesarean surgery. Unless there is clear medical indication (see below), letting labor begin on its own is the safest decision.

Induction before 39 weeks brings an additional risk of prematurity. Babies born even a little too early can experience complications like problems with breathing, feeding, maintaining body temperature and jaundice. In most cases, babies know best when it comes to being born.

What if I need to be induced?

There are solid medical reasons for induction before 39 weeks. Being done with being pregnant, isn’t one of them. ;)  There are also several reasons given for induction that are not true medical reasons. It’s important to know the difference. Click through and read up on the two links provided above on the new induction resource page on Childbirth Connection, a not-for-profit organization founded that works to improve the quality of maternity care.

If you’re pregnant and faced with the decision to induce — and even if you’re not — read up! Inform yourself. Learn all that you can, from sources in addition to your care provider and other than well-meaning family and friends. Start here:

“Choosing Wisely” & Reading the Fine Print with Maternity Care

Did you know there are organizations out there that work to set checks and balances for our system of medical professionals? The ABIM Foundation, founded by the American Board of Internal Medicine, has made it their mission to enhance quality of care by encouraging regular assessment and improvement of our physicians, bringing diverse groups and leaders together, and promoting research. In line with their mission, ABIM Foundation developed the Choosing Wisely® initiative. Choosing Wisely aims to promote conversations between physicians and patients by helping patients choose care that is:

  • Supported by evidence
  • Not duplicative of other tests or procedures already received
  • Free from harm
  • Truly necessary

As a result, ABIM  developed a list, with input from national medical organizations, of  “Five Things Physicians and Patients Should Question.” The idea is that these lists (separated by medical specialty) will spark discussion about the need—or lack thereof—for many frequently ordered tests or treatments. This is great news for us as consumers — what more do we want than transparency with our care? We want to know if the test or treatment that’s been prescribed is truly necessary and helpful. We also want to know the risks, weighed properly against the benefits. With regard to maternity care, Choosing Wisely developed the following recommendations:

Don’t schedule elective, non-medically indicated inductions of labor or Cesarean deliveries before 39 weeks 0 days gestational age.
Delivery prior to 39 weeks 0 days has been shown to be associated with an increased risk of learning disabilities and a potential increase in morbidity and mortality. There are clear medical indications for delivery prior to 39 weeks 0 days based on maternal and/or fetal conditions. A mature fetal lung test, in the absence of appropriate clinical criteria, is not an indication for delivery.
Don’t schedule elective, non-medically indicated inductions of labor between 39 weeks 0 days and 41 weeks 0 days unless the cervix is deemed favorable.
Ideally, labor should start on its own initiative whenever possible. Higher Cesarean delivery rates result from inductions of labor when the cervix is unfavorable. Health care practitioners should discuss the risks and benefits with their patients before considering inductions of labor without medical indications.

Considering the high rates of elective inductions, often prior to 39 weeks, these recommendations are a breath of fresh air. Of course, this is not the first stand that has been taken against unnecessary inductions (the American College of Obstetricians, ACOG, has included this directive for some time). But with these particular recommendations, there is added stress on the importance of not inducing unless there is a favorable cervix, and the added emphasis that “labor should start on its own initiative.”

While these recommendations represent a healthy step forward in improving our maternity care, there are some concerns about how they could be misunderstood. In a review of these guidelines on the Lamaze blog, Science & Sensibility, Amy Romano of Childbirth Connection questions, “will the new message lead women and care providers to think that delivery is indicated once a woman’s cervix is ripe?” In other words, Romano cautions:

The best indicator of readiness is still the spontaneous onset of labor at term, the culmination of an intricate interplay of hormonal signals between the fetus and the woman. Anytime we intervene with the timing of birth we have to weigh the potential benefits and harms of overriding that process in the context of the fully informed preferences and values of women.

 So, while the Choosing Wisely recommendations are important and helpful in our quest for the best maternity care, it’s vital to keep in mind that, unless medically indicated, a date or length of pregnancy (ie, 39 weeks) should not be the reason for induction. It’s still best to allow labor to begin on its own. For a better understanding on the importance of labor starting spontaneously, check out the Lamaze Healthy Birth Practice video:

 

Have you experienced pressure to induce? What did you do? How did you discuss it with your care provider?

 

10 Ways to Help Overcome Your Birth Fears

By Alice Lesch Kelly, a health and psychology writer for FitPregancy

Many women who whole-heartedly want to be mothers dread the prospect of having to actually deliver a baby. In fact, while just about every woman feels some anxiety about giving birth, 6 percent to 10 percent of pregnant women suffer intense fear. This can manifest itself in such symptoms as nightmares, heart palpitations, dizziness, shortness of breath, a racing pulse and difficulty concentrating. The good news is that there are ways to reduce your fear of childbirth. Here are 10 of them:

1. Track the source of your anxiety 
Certain experiences can trigger an intense fear of labor. These include a history of abuse or rape; a past miscarriage or stillbirth; a previous difficult delivery; and excessive exposure to traumatic labor stories. Also at risk are women with a history of anxiety, depression and low self-esteem, according to a 2008 study published in the international OBGYN journal BJOG. Understanding why you’re so afraid is a first step toward easing those feelings; keeping a journal can help.

2. Don’t wait until labor day
Start identifying and dealing with your fears at the beginning of your pregnancy, not the end. Chances are good that your worries are deep-seated, and it can take time to get to their root and address them. Anxiety tends to increase as a pregnancy progresses, becoming most intense as a woman’s due date approaches, so try to get a jump on the source and solutions early on.

3. Consider therapy 
A study conducted in Finland found that women with an intense fear of labor who underwent cognitive (talk) therapy had shorter labors and fewer unnecessary C-sections than those who didn’t. “If a woman feels that her fear is taking over other aspects of her life, such as her intimate relationships, I usually suggest that she see a therapist,” says Margaret Plumbo, C.N.M., a midwife at Health East Clinic in Woodbury, Minn.

4. Learn relaxation skills 
Practicing self-hypnosis, meditating and doing breathing exercises while you’re expecting can help calm you during pregnancy and labor. Listening to guided-relaxation tapes that describe your perfect “peaceful place” is another effective option.

5. Share your fears 
Don’t hesitate to tell your doctor or midwife that you’re afraid; just talking about it may help, and she may have ideas about how to reduce your anxiety. Sometimes just learning the facts—how often delivery complications actually occur, for example—can put your mind at ease. If your caregiver doesn’t seem to listen or lacks compassion, consider finding a new one.

6. Put your fears in writing 
Create a one-page birth plan that includes your desires about such options as pain medication, laboring positions and fetal monitoring as well as an honest explanation of your fears. Share it with your caregiver during a prenatal visit and have a copy ready to give to the nurses when you’re admitted to the hospital. Knowing that your caregivers are aware of your concerns will help reassure you.

7. Have a midwife or doula 
Midwives and doulas spend more time with women during prenatal visits and labor than OBs do, and their presence and insights can help you cope with your fears. “Your doula or midwife understands you and will stay with you during labor,” says Marshall, Va.-based former doula Bonnie B. Matheson, founder of Childbirth Solutions LLC.

8. Shut out negative stories 
Don’t watch scary TV shows about childbirth, read horror stories or listen to friends recount the gory details of their labors. Some experts believe that fear of delivery has become more widespread since the advent of sensationalized depictions of childbirth.

9. Learn about pain relief 
Most women fear the pain of childbirth to some degree, but knowing that safe and effective means of relief are available can help lessen your anxiety. Take a childbirth course, talk with your caregiver beforehand about medication and other pain-relief methods and include your intentions in your birth plan.

10. Explore your options 
Some women fear the typical hospital childbirth experience. Choosing alternatives, such as having your baby in a homelike birthing center that permits women to deliver in different positions and have more control over their experience and environment, can often allay such fears.

What Does Pushing Feel Like?

Women often ask me what pushing feels like. As an educator and doula it is probably one of the more challenging concepts to address.

Some of the imagery can be quite vulgar.  “Push like you are pooping.” Do women REALLY want the image of pooping out their babies?! Or the imagery puts pushing in a neat box. “The urge will overwhelm you and you cannot help it.” “You will just know.” Those do not adequately speak to what can occur. Some women get no urge to bear down until the baby is very low and engages the nerves. Others will have the urge when baby is high and dilation isn’t complete. Still other women do not get an intense urge at all regardless of pain management or natural birth.

For that matter, great rectal pressure may be felt, intense abdominal pressure felt, incredible pelvic pressure may be experienced,  or frankly not much at all can be felt.

I believe whatever a woman’s body does is right for her birth and her baby.

Below are many quotes that others openly offered to help women everywhere have a deeper understanding of what pushing is like.

Quotes from real women

“My babies #1-4 practically fell out. #5 I was in what looked like early labor for 4 days. Midwife assistant came over, checked me, I was at 7 cm but ‘not in active labor’. I got into it quickly! Long story short I pushed, painfully, for 3.5 hours, baby had 11″ cord with a true knot. She needed to be pinked up but is almost 3 and is doing well.”

“When I was coached to push (w/ no 3–first natural birth) I was in agony. When I was left alone and did not push (w/ no 4), life was good.”

“I feel like if I can just get to the pushing phase, it will be a breeze from there.” (and it was. The whole “surrender/dilate” phase is much more challenging to me than the whole “take control/pushing” phase.)”

“Pushing was fantastic with my 2nd baby and awful with my 3rd! It was really surprising because after my 2nd birth I thought “Okay so pushing is the really fun and satisfying part! That’s when it gets EASY.” Then my third birth totally shocked me. Pushing was the most painful and difficult part of the birth. I had stayed so calm and collected… until then. Every pregnancy and birth is so different!”

“I love the way it feels to have a baby move through me and into my waiting hands.”

“The mirror really gave me focus and helped me push very effectively when I inspired by seeing a peek of baby head.”

“I *loved* pushing. I didn’t do it for very long (two contractions), but it was so great to finally get there. I was told to purple push (not in those terms – the nurse told me to hold my breath), and intellectually I knew I shouldn’t, but I tried it and it really did feel like I was more productive that way. I felt like a warrior. It was awesome.”

“Before anyone hates me for only pushing through two contractions, you should know that I’d been in labor for three days – so it all comes out in the wash ”

“Pushing with my 2nd was horrible. 3+ hours of the worst pain I had experienced at that point in my life. Turns out her little fist was up by her cheek (um ouch) and her head did not mold much. My 3rd I did not push because she was precipitous and we were trying to get to the hospital. I felt like all the energy in the world was gathering and swirling at my fundus and then suddenly flowed through me carrying her with it. It was the best physical experience of my life.”

“I have heard some say that pushing feels good.. um, I personally have not experienced that and I have had clients remark the same … :p”

“Hmm…Definitely the best part of labor and delivery. For me though – never had any “urge” to push but still had baby out in 20 mins…I think I was feeling determined being a VBAC mom…still, would have been easier if I felt the need to and not just contractions. “

“Heard lots of clients say it feels good after hours of labor”

“Difficult. I had an urge to push “early” every time. Once I got to the “ring of fire” it was awesome though.  I knew I almost was there.”

“Ahhh, I’m not so fond of the pushing. Did it for 2 1/2 hours with my daughter (LOA) and though it was only about 20 minutes with my boys, they were both OP. That was, shall we say, unpleasant. I cannot relate to those who’ve told me it was such a relief!”

“My labor was surprisingly short, only 6 hours and she’s my first baby so far. I woke up in active labor and at 4 cm and I wanted to push THE WHOLE TIME! It was horrible having the nurse say I couldn’t push yet when I wanted to so badly, but once I did get to push, oh my goodness, it felt incredible. So much control and power, it felt so good to finally work to end. 3 big pushes and there she was. ”

“Sheer, immeasurable power. Unbelievable!”

“Babies actually come out of your butt. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.” One of my clients recently said that. ”

“Birth is shockingly rectal” – Gretchen Humphries. She was totally right.”

“Pushing with my first felt like I was satisfying an urge, an uncontrollable urge. It felt almost desperate I couldn’t stop it. (kinda like having that rectal urge when you REALLY have to poop). Pushing with my second was no big deal, I followed my urges again and pushed 3x and out she came in her 10# glory. It was extremely satisfying and powerful I felt like I had just finished exercising. Amazing!”

“The ring of fire OH MY it is indeed! Though as soon as the burn started the whole are went numb almost like too hot or too cold numb and the power of the urge to push my son out was almost beyond description.  Pushing was never easy for me as I have an unusual pelvic shape.  But my last son WOW no molding and quite a large head to birth him was incredible really.  No tearing, just some abrasion.  Recovery was a snap.”

“I had at the point of delivery what was the best orgasm of my life!”

“Pushing was totally primal.  I had an incredible urge and it took over.”

“The pressure of the baby entering deep into my pelvis and vagina was wild and almost overwhelming.”

“Feeling my baby when he was partially inside and partially outside of my body was a euphoric and surreal moment. The hour of pushing was well worth it.”

Bottom line – you and your baby are unique. You work together during all parts of labor including pushing through to delivery. Be confident. Use your intuition. Follow what your body desires to do.

Questions and Answers

  1. I have had a previous episiotomy, do I need another one automatically? No you don’t.  Depending on how your scar has set and the position you push in the scar can re-open or it adhesions in the scar will need to be broken up.  I would suggest perineal massage prenatally if there are any adhesions to break them up and soften the area prior and to choose a pushing position that doesn’t put all the tension on that exact area.
  2. Is is wrong to push when I am not fully dilated? Not necessarily.  Now I think grunty smaller pushes with those contractions can be effective to complete dilation if you are in transition.  Prior to that change the position you are laboring in to change where baby is placing pressure.  Knee chest can be very effective to abate very early pushing desire.
  3. What if I poop during pushing? Some women will pass some stool and some won’t.  An open bottom is vital to pushing, so it is a normal but not always occurence.  A fantastic nurse, MW or doc will not actually wipe it away but simply cover as to not cause constriction of the sphincter muscles which can disturb the pushing progress. If it is possible to discard the stool without disrupting you, it will be done very quietly, quickly and discreetly.
  4. I am very modest, do I have to have all my “glory” showing? Absolutely not.  You can maintain good modesty all the way up to delivery.  Even then you do not need to be fully exposed.  Truthfully a home birth or birth center birth with a midwife if likely going to help you have your modesty concerns respected and honored. Really no one needs to put hands in you during pushing, needs to stretch anything, or needs to see everything either.  A midwife is trained to see by taking a quick peek or simply to know when she needs to have hands ready to receive baby and to offer external positive pressure if mom wants.
  5. Is there a “right” position to push in? There IS a right position for you, your baby and your pelvis. The only way to know is to try a variety of positions, pushing spontaneously and listening to your body.  Generally the lithotomy or semi-reclined position disallows the tail bone to move up and out to create more space. Side-lying, squatting, leaning in a mild squat, hands and knees, hands and knees with a lunge, and even McRoberts can be excellent to open a pelvis to a large degree. Pay attention and go for what feels right.

 

This article has been reposted with permission from Preparing for Birth, http://prepforbirth.com/.

Finding Renewed Trust & Confidence: A Birth Story

I am a childhood abuse survivor and so I didn’t have confidence or trust in my body. That lack of confidence was reinforced when my first birth, a planned natural birth, resulted in a painful and highly medicated induction. I suffered post-partum depression for over a year after the birth. But I am blessed because though I was defeated in spirit, I had great support. When I told my husband, Rob, that I was changing my care to a group of Certified Nurse Midwives who deliver at a local hospital he stood behind me. We did not know it at the time, but the choice to change my provider became one of the pivotal moments in my recovery as a survivor, and monumentally improved my joy in mothering and my marriage.

 

When I discovered I was pregnant again, I fearfully avoided my first prenatal appointment for 12 weeks. My previous doctor wasn’t nurturing. When he checked me he did it in such a way that I was left feeling violated. No “cold touch.” No “gentle pressure.” No bed-side manner. He just walked in, “I’m going to check your cervix.” Check. “Everything looks normal.” It wasn’t his intention to make me feel bad, but when you’re an abuse survivor it’s not unlike being abused again. My midwives gave me care which chipped away at my fears. They talked with me about my feelings about my past birth and my future hopes and concerns, not just my medical history. They treated my whole person. I was more than a body which happened to be wrapped around a baby. Our first appointment lasted over an hour. I felt safe in their care. But I still didn’t feel confident in my self.

 

My due date came and went– nine days, ten days, eleven, twelve– I feared I was unable to go into labor. My midwives gave me the best standard of care and monitored my baby’s health. They trusted my body to go into labor eventually and encouraged me to be patient. On the evening of my thirteenth day post-due my contractions finally started, 15 minutes apart, and I tried to prepare myself to welcome my baby to the world.

 

I called Rob from work, and I drove my daughter to my in-laws’ home and called the midwife. She told me to hang out at  home until I felt I needed more support or contractions were coming very close together. Bedtime came, and Rob put our daughter to bed. I labored quietly in the living room while my husband’s family went to sleep. Everything was normal, peaceful.

 

In the back of my head I feared things progressing, feared going to the hospital and what would happen to me once I got there. Would my body do its work? Would I have spent 7 hours in labor just to be dilated to 2 cm when we finally arrived? As night turned into early morning we decided to make the trip to the hospital. My fears escalated as we arrived. I was defensive towards the nurses and Rob, nervous my labor would stall.

 

When my midwife arrived, she brought her calming presence with her. Within thirty minutes she had the lights turned down, and every unnecessary person removed from the room. She gave Rob instructions on how to rub my back. The three of us fell into a rhythm. Rocking, massaging, humming, moaning… finally I relaxed. Finally I felt like things were the way they should be. I joked between contractions. I was actually enjoying being in labor!

 

Suddenly, I felt the urge to vomit and my contractions started bashing on top each other. I had been lying on my side in bed and I called out for help. While I lay shaking and panting in the bed, my midwife and nurse filled the labor tub with warm water. I climbed in as soon as I could. Laboring wasn’t fun anymore, it was harder work and I had to focus, but I was still calm and relaxed. My midwife leaned against the side of the tub and talked me through contractions, Rob poured warm water down my back with each one and I focused on the sensation of water going down. It was just an hour until I began feeling the urge to push.

 

I don’t know if it’s because of my past abuse, or if it’s common to become fearful during the pushing phase of labor, but I suddenly became panicked. I was thrashing around the tub crying, “Help me!” splashing everywhere. I tried to get up and leave. I was holding back against the pushes, trying to escape my own urges. I will be forever thankful for what came next. My midwife grabbed my arms and looked right into my eyes saying, “Hold it together. Your body is strong, and you can do this. You need to hold it together and your baby will be here.” I started to sob in her arms, “I need to you help me. Help me please.” My heart was breaking because I was so afraid of what I would think of myself if I couldn’t push my baby out on my own. “Moan low. And push into the pain. Push your baby through the pain.” Ten minutes later my beautiful daughter was born into the water and placed on my chest. I rested there with her, relief and joy in my heart. She barely even cried, she just nestled in to me. Rob beamed with pride. We had overcome the obstacles and done it.

 

The next morning the second midwife from the practice came to visit me to see how my birth had gone. I told her how it had been so peaceful except the end. But I had managed to keep it together and go naturally. Besides my pride in my accomplishment, her words built me up: “You are powerful. You birthed a baby. You can do anything.” That was truth.

 

I took that confidence and power home with me from the hospital. Unlike after my first birth, I suffered no post-partum depression. I started to trust my instincts more. I began to be more open-hearted to Rob and my daughters. I don’t want to pretend that one event changed my whole life, but in some ways it did. My natural birth experience was the first time someone other than my husband trusted and respected my body. I was expected to be powerful, and I was! My daughter’s birth was a foundation of confidence that I can build my strength upon. It can’t be taken from me.

 

Devona Brazier is a wife and mother of three lovely daughters living in Akron, OH. She works to support pregnant and breastfeeding women through La Leche League membership and studying to her Lamaze Educator Certification. She enjoys kickboxing, running, hiking and sewing. She blogs at tobravebirth.com

Thoughts on Birth the Second Time Around

By Caitlin Tucker

I knew right away this time around — I started to feel those familiar signs of pregnancy, cramps, tiredness and nausea. I took a test the first day of my missed period this time and those two little lines came up. My husband and I were very excited! Of course, I have the usually worries throughout the first trimester and the excitement to hear that little heart beat for the first time. For my daughter, who is now 15 months old, we took the typical route of care. We went to my family doctor to confirm that the home test was right, I stayed in their care until I was 28 weeks along and then I transferred care to an obstetrician for the remainder of my pregnancy. I felt confident with both my family doctor and obstetrician, and in spite of the quick visits  and long waits in the waiting room, I was satisfied overall.

We also took the typical labour and delivery classes through our local hospital. I remember only learning what to do once we got to the hospital and how to be admitted,  but not much about how to cope during labour. I figured, since I wanted a natural birth, it would just happen that way. I read a lot of books and spoke to a few of my friends that had already had babies. I wanted a non-medicated, natural and healthy birth. At 38 ½ weeks pregnant I felt my first contraction. After a few that were about 15 minutes apart, I let my husband know I thought early labour was starting. We arrived at the hospital when they were 1-3 minutes apart after about 5 hours of early labour. After about 7 hours more at the hospital, our little girl arrived at 5:43 a.m., weighing 6 pounds 15 ounces. We were relieved and so excited she had finally arrived! I think we were both just so happy she was healthy that it took a few months to come to the realization that my labour  did not go  the way I had hoped and planned. After I arrived at the hospital, I was set up on the fetal monitor and was continually monitored throughout my labour and wasn’t allowed off the hospital bed. In hindsight, I came to understand that being on one’s back during labour is one of the least comfortable positions in order to achieve a successful natural birth. I  laboured for 3 hours on the bed without medication, but as labour  got more intense and I wasn’t able to move around, the contractions became very difficult to cope with. My nurse was very nice, but didn’t offer any labour support and just kept her eyes on the baby monitor. My OB was also very nice, but as usual, she was on-call and was in and out of the room and also offered no support during labour other then medication options. Throughout my labour I was asked several times if I wanted an epidural and I kept saying “no” but after 3 hours and not knowing when it was going to end, I gave in and signed the form for the epidural. After taking the medication, I was relieved the pain was finally over. Two hours later, I was fully dilated.  After 2 more hours of directed pushing, our little one arrived.

Initially, we were satisfied with how things went and didn’t think too much about the disappointment that our natural birth plan didn’t happen. When I started to think about having more children, I realized how important it was to me to have a natural, healthy and safe birth. I started to read more books on natural births, watch documentaries, and educate myself. I spoke to my friends who had natural births and talked about what they did differently than myself. One major point that differed from my experience was that they prepared themselves by taking classes on how to cope with labour and had professional support with them during labour who encouraged and supported natural birth under safe situations. I continued my education on natural birth and it lead me to look into other care professionals that promote natural birth as a healthy part of life, instead of viewing the pain and experiences of natural childbirth as a burden.  When we found out that baby number two was on his/her way, I knew this was my opportunity to be as prepared as I could for labour this time around. I am now seeing a supportive midwife, enjoying their peaceful office with minimal wait times, and receiving encouragement to have a natural birth and continual support throughout labour and postpartum home visits. I believe that our bodies were designed to give birth that is inherently safe, and under most circumstances, women have the ability to give birth without medication, to move freely throughout labour. I believe that women need support from their friends, family, care givers and society as a whole to give birth naturally. It should be celebrated by women. Even though I’ve given birth once, I truly want to experience birth and have the support of my husband and midwife as they help me labour through the discomfort and bring another life into this world. I’m choosing not to be simply satisfied with my birth story – I want to be in awe of it.

 

Caitlin lives in Toronto, Canada, and is a wife and stay-at-home mother to one little girl and baby number two on the way. She and her husband are involved in their church and Caitlin helps run a mothers group on a bi-weekly basis. She recently enrolled in the Douglas College Lamaze Childbirth Educator Program and hopes to bring knowledge, empowerment, and encouragement to other women throughout their pregnancy and birth.

To Induce or Not Induce

Are you approaching your due date or sitting, waiting past your due date? If so, it’s possible that you may be considering an induction. Before you mark your calendar, be sure to do your homework. An induction can be a helpful procedure for moms & babies who need it for medical reasons, but when induction is used outside of necessity, you should know about the risks. The following is reprinted from the Lamaze “Push for Your Baby” campaign website

An increasing number of hospitals are working hard to reduce the number of inductions they are doing, and for good reason. Artificially starting labor may be good for a care provider juggling a busy calendar, or your mother-in-law who wants to book her plane tickets, but it can make labor harder and more painful for women, and stress babies and jeopardize their health. Studies have consistently shown that the risk of having a C-section for first time moms nearly doubles with induction. It also increases your baby’s chance of being born premature. That’s because due dates aren’t an exact science. Even if you and your care provider are positive about your dates, every baby matures at a different rate. Inducing labor can mean your baby is born before he or she is ready.

Aside from the risks of induction, there are specific benefits to letting labor start on its own. During the last part of your pregnancy, your baby’s lungs mature and get ready to breathe. He or she puts on a protective layer of fat, and develops critical brain function through 41 weeks of pregnancy. Cutting the pregnancy short can be tough on your baby.

Before going through with an induction, tell everyone to hold their horses, and take time to learn more about benefits of letting labor start on its own.

What’s Next?

So, how do you get a better idea of the care your doctor or midwife will provide? Ask good questions! Take a look at some suggestions.

Talk Back

How about you? Are you hoping to avoid certain interventions in your baby’s birth? Have you experienced interventions that made your birth harder? Did you successfully avoid an intervention that helped make your birth easier and safer? Tell us your story in the comments.

Push for Better!

Be an active partner with your care provider, and get the best care.

Oh the joys of pregnancy… you’ve battled nausea, your back hurts, you’re not sleeping, and you’re running to the bathroom every 20 minutes. Still, you’re absolutely 100 percent devoted to having the absolute best of everything for your baby. You’ve researched the safest car seats, highest-quality strollers, best cribs and smartest baby monitors. You and your baby are all set, right?

There’s one thing that’s important not to leave off your “smart shopper” checklist; your baby’s birth day!

Like any other kind of health care, maternity care isn’t perfect. You can help your baby and you get the best care by being an active partner in your care. Your health care provider – doctor or midwife – has important knowledge and skills, but they don’t always know everything about you or what is best for you and your baby. They need you to speak up about your concerns and needs early so you can get the care you’re looking for throughout pregnancy, labor and birth.

Why does your voice matter? A lot of the regular care that pregnant women receive includes unnecessary interventions that don’t always help and can sometimes even cause harm. Routine care isn’t designed for you and your baby’s unique needs.

So when you’re told that you can’t eat or drink in labor, that you should stay confined to bed to stay attached to the monitor, or that your labor should beartificially started because you’re a few days “overdue” it’s fair to question and discuss these practices with your health care provider.

Remember that getting the care that matches your and your baby’s needs may mean saying, “I’d like to consider another option.” Asking questions and providing information builds trust, and it’s the best way to make sure everyone is working toward the same goal – the safest, healthiest birth possible.

 

The Lamaze “Push for Your Baby” campaign encourages women to advocate for better care for their babies and themselves. With the right information and education, women have the opportunity to be active partners in their care during pregnancy and birth. This campaign is designed to help women be ‘savvy shoppers’ and prepared to seek out the best care for their babies and themselves. Watch the video to find out what moms and dads have learned about pushing for the best care